time vs memories

Often a client, who has suffered the loss of a loved one, will say things like:

” I know time will heal all things” or “It’ll get easier with time”

Yet I feel that all time does is dull our MEMORIES and makes it easier to forget?        

So, the question is: ” Do you want to forget or are you wanting to remember the loved one without pain?”

If you want to remember without pain, then time will not help.

Perhaps we can tweak these clichés and say: “I will heal despite time” or “It’ll get easier with MEMORIES”?

So…don’t depend on time to heal you, because you will be disappointed, rather depend on MEMORIES TO HEAL 😊

“MIRROR-MIRROR ON THE WALL…”

“Mirror – Mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of us all?”

 

You remember this quote? Yes, it is from Snow White.

In my “prop” collection, I have a wooden mirror, which I like to use for certain situations. On the front of the mirror is written: “This is what I see” and on the back: “is it ALL true?”

When I ask a client to describe themselves, using the mirror, I often get a string of negative adjectives…

” I’m ugly, I’m useless, I’m a failure, I’m stupid,” 

Then I ask them to turn the mirror around, and answer the question that is painted on the back: “Is it ALL true?”

The first step to working through negative self-assessment is to see what adjectives are true and what is a result of a biased or unbalanced self-view. If you say you are “stupid” is this truth? To answer this question, you first have to define what stupid is.. and so starts a realistic and truthful assessment of each negative adjective you have attributed to yourself.

The adjectives that are TRUE can CHANGED and those that are FALSE can be REMOVED from your list of self-descriptions 😊

SO ………………………… go stand in front of your mirror today……

you ask : “Mirror – Mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of us all?”

you answer:  “I might not be the fairest, but I’m close enough!”